Thursday, July 16, 2009

Brave or Survival?

So I started reading this book. It is called Dear Parents- Letters to Bereaved Parents. I love it so far. It shares all the emotions that I am feeling. I will probably be posting a lot about this book. They put my feelings into words. Here is one passage I would like to talk about.

"I weary of hearing how brave I am. I weary of people saying 'I don't think I could go through what you've been through.' I'm no stronger nor weaker than they. We all do what we have to do when we don't have any choice. Sure, I act normal. Sure, I smile and crack a joke. That's not brave.......that's survival. They don't see me at night."-Sandy

Man if I had a dollar for every time I heard that from people. Everyone says I am so strong. If it ever happened to them they wouldn't be able to get out of bed. Trust me, most days all I want to do is lay in bed, but you do what you have to.
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  1. NanJuly 16, 2009 at 8:41 PM

    Thanks for the book suggestion. Glad to hear you are getting out of bed cause it is a big step, and if you want to stay in bed for a day, thats ok to. Thinking of you xo Nan

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  2. KateJuly 17, 2009 at 7:37 AM

    Wow...that sums it up. I am going to read that book, it sounds amazing! Thank you for sharing. There is such a huge difference between survival and bravery." I am sure so many bereaved parents have heard those very words Sandy wrote about. I saw a beautiful quote on a t-shirt at the March of Dimes. It said "You never know how strong you are until strong is the only option you have." I totally agree. I do believe we are strong...but our strength comes from survival mode.

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