Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Showing Compassion

This week we had our monthly meetings. Everyone was talking about how their family and friends were not really there for them. Their families think that it is better to leave them alone and not talk about it. As they talked, I sat and thought about what they were saying. I realized that only a couple people called to check on me. The people I expected to be there, haven't said a word. I need to talk about the boys, and I shouldn't have to call you to tell you what to say to me. Parker and Gavin are my children, and will always be a part of my life. If you can't feel comfortable talking about the boys, than I'm sorry. You aren't apart of our lives. This was not just a pregnancy. They were real people. They were sweet little babies. And a lot of people don't realize, but the boys were alive. They lived for a couple of minutes. We held them as they slowly passed. I don't mean to be rude, by all means, but if you really love and care for Chad and I, you will respect and acknowledge Parker and Gavin. Do what you would be doing if they were still here with us.

5 comments:

  1. Great Aunt HeatherJune 11, 2009 at 2:11 PM

    Sweatheart, Please do not cut anyone out of your lives... Everyone deals with trajedy differently, just because someone is not talking with you about your beautiful boys does not mean that they are not thinking of you, Chad, Parker, and Gavin every single day. It may be hard for some of us to speak our thoughts aloud. Love you all bunches.

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  2. I never know how people are dealing with this tragedy because nobody talks to me. I feel like people are cutting me out of their lives. I know it is hard for people to talk about it. Hell, I don't even want to really talk about it, but this is really happening. It is not fair, and I don't know how to handle this. I am only 19 years old. I am too young for this, and can't do it alone.

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  3. Great Aunt HeatherJune 11, 2009 at 7:04 PM

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  4. I think every lost baby mom can attest to feeling this way. I'm so angry at certain people and know I have lost friends because of this. You really find out who your friends are. I've been so angry at family members who just sit around and have conversations like nothing happened. And even when I tell them I want to talk about it, they ignore me. It makes me so crazy!

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  5. Thank you so much for this comment. It is good for my family to hear it from someone else besides me. I sound like a broken record.

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